Ultimate S.A.H.M.

Home Sweet Home is where I try to be the Ultimate SAHM and I have ideas to share with you so we can become ultimate S.A.H.M.s together. I can help you become the Ultimate S.A.H.M. who is also a W.A.H.M.

Home sweet home is my turf where I  want to be the Ultimate S.A.H.M. 

I’m very happy about being a stay at home mom, but I wasn’t always confident or secure with that identity. Now, after being home with 9 children, I can look back and see the benefits. I’ve had children that were at almost all the phases of life at the same time. We’ve had newborn babies, toddlers, middle school, high school, college, married children and grandbabies, all at the same time.

I sure don’t remember any classes in school on how to be the ultimate SAHM. Back in the day, this is how we were influenced to see things, mostly by TV. I hope our views have improved about the way we Moms live our lives now. It seemed like there were 3 kinds of women.

a) Women who appeared to be massively successful at raising their children and working a fabulous career at the same time. 10 out of 10 points to them! Oh my goodness, to be that amazing.

b) Women who were SAHM’s and stayed at home with their children and didn’t work a job at all. 1 out of 10 points to them. Yeah, we don’t get a lot of respect, right?

c) Then there were the women who worked long, hard hours at their jobs, for low pay. They had to juggle the kids, daycare, and keep their house civilized as well. 5 out of 10 points to them and a lot of sympathy because that’s a really rough road. Hang in there, girl, you’re doing your best.

The Bible talks about a woman who is the Ultimate S.A.H.M.

She is Amazing. Just read this:

  • The heart of her husband trusts in her. (He respects her judgment and abilities and no wonder, because her desire is to do her best for him. You’re rockin’ it, girl!)
  • She seeks wool and flax and works willingly with her hands. (Good job, woman! You’re willing to get down to it and do the work it takes)
  • She brings excellent food to her family (You’re not born with cooking abilities. She tries hard to learn the skills to find and prepare food that brings health, nutrition and pleasure to her family)
  • She rises while it is still nighttime and provides food for her household and her servants (My first thought…she has servants! Yes!)
  • She considers a field and buys it, then plants a vineyard with her own hands (She’s not a sitting around the house watching Netflix all day. She’s out there working the finances, the Real Estate and doing actual labor as well)
  • She is strong, (Physically strong, because she actually works with her hands and mentally tough because she’s figured out how to succeed in the work world)
  • She knows her merchandise is profitable and she works at her business into the night (Skilled and knowledgeable and is willing to work long hours)
  • She uses her own hands (to the distaff and her hands hold the spindle and makes handcrafted goods)

Not a bad a list, I’d say, but there’s more.

A Proverbs 31 woman is the Ultimate S.A.H.M.

  • She shares with the poor and actually helps the needy, personally (Kind and loving and she’s earned enough to share with the less fortunate. Only the wealthy can financially help others significantly, don’t knock it.)
  • She’s not worried about snow because her household is very well clothed. She makes her own quality bedding and clothes herself beautifully. (This girls understands that quality is important and she looks her best and makes sure her family looks good too)
  • She makes bed coverings for herself and her clothing is fine linen. (All I know is that handcrafted bed coverings would beat the thin, ##-Mart bedspread I’ve got)
  • Her husband is known in the gates, respected, when he sits among the elders of the land (Maybe it’s true that behind every good man is a good woman)
  • She makes linen garments and sells them and delivers things she makes to merchants (another business venture! First Real Estate, then a vineyard, and now handcrafted clothes)
  • She is strong and dignified, (It’s obvious the way she’s dressed, and by her appearance that she’s strong and dignified. I suspect that whatever she wears, she’d look fabulous, because she has strength of character that comes across the way she carries herself
  • She opens her mouth with wisdom, teaches kindness (Willing to share her knowledge to help others)
  • She looks well to the ways of her household and isn’t idle (She isn’t lazy and her first priority is her own family, beautiful)
  • Her children call her blessed. Her husband praises her. Her works praise her in the gates. (Great reputation, from her family to her community)
  • She knows that charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. (This girl has rocked it beyond any other woman. She deserves whatever praise she gets)

Well, Girls, this is the goal.

If you are a stay at home mom wanting to be the ultimate S.A.H.M.; work hard, do your best and have your family love and appreciate you when it’s all said and done. Then, read Proverbs 31 for yourself. You’ll be inspired. I’m inspired to achieve more because when I dig deep, I know I can do better.I love flowers, they're like a ribbon on top

So, I used to be a stay at home mom and I did not get offended when people asked me if I worked, because I knew what they meant. But now I can say that I’m a Work At Home Mom. How does that sound? Are we on the same team?

Working from home is getting to be more and more popular. So, we are now hip! BTW, the new handle on the street is W.A.H.M., because that’s who we are, girls!

P.S. I’d love to hear your story. How have gone evolved from a S.A.H.M into a W.A.H.M?



Mama Wants to Look Good Too!

My life isn’t all kids, although that’s such a huge part of my life and I love it. I also have a business with makeup and skincare, so I recently took an amazing refresher course on fashion and style. I focused on learning to analyze body types and how to feature your best qualities and downplay our challenges. I still want to look good and not give up, and if I can learn a tip or two, then I’m going for it.

Mama wants to look good, too. As a stay at home mom, it's easy to not take care of myself, but when I take some extra time, it sure helps my self image to improveIf the course had only taught about which clothes are in style right now, I’d have all the info I needed to go out and buy lots of fashionable outfits. Then I’d be in style right? I’ve noticed that certain trends are not always my best look so then what do I do?

Its so liberating to know that I can still look good, even if I’m not flaunting the latest fads in clothes because I’ve learned some tips and tricks to look my personal best. 

I’m not a fashion diva or a trend setter, Ha ha, I don’t know if that’s good news or bad news. I just have one goal. That is to look pretty wherever I am. If I’m going to watch sports, I’ll be wearing jeans, but my shoes will probably have sparkles, my makeup will be done and I’ll have some kind of top that’s girly.

I have friends who’s main goal is to be comfortable, whether its casual or fancy. I have other friends that are so trendy, they stand out in a crowd and beautifully show off the next season’s fashion hits and they look amazing. What’s your style and are you comfortable with it?

What did I learn, you ask?

  1. How to choose the best colors for me; the ones that will make my eyes come alive, my skin appear healthy and youthful; colors that show harmony, balance and confidence with my hair, skin and eyes.
  2. I learned about the different figure frames; who is lighter on top or bottom or straight or curvy. Everyone’s figure style has their own challenges and their own great features. Fashion isn’t always designed for your style. We learned some techniques to work with our own figures to look our very best. Mama still wants to look good!
  3. I learned how to accomplish an ‘all-together’ look. I didn’t always know how to do that. Do you know there are tips and tricks that help you look your personal best? What if you knew them and it could make the world of difference in your overall appearance and confidence?
  4. I learned why we should consider how we look when we’re dressing for success. I’m talking success in life, not just work. When we’re interacting with other people we are creating an impression about ourselves with our appearance.

Why is that important, you also ask?   😉

If you don’t care about fashion, or shop much, you should be asking ‘Why do I care?’ Well, here’s one thought. I have a friend who says that if she gets ready in the morning and knows she’s done her best to look nice and she looks appropriate for the occasion, then she can forget about herself and spend the rest of her day focusing on others.

Do you know that people watch you every day, looking for clues as to who you are. You know this is true because you do the same thing:) There’s so much that you can learn about others at a quick glance, but if you’re inadvertently sending out the wrong impression, you might be smothering your true message.

Here’s a few startling stats to give you some perspective about how women see themselves in the world.   http://dove.us

9/10 – girls want to change at least one physical trait.

6/10 – are so concerned about how they look, they won’t do normal daily activities that they’d like to do

4% – of women worldwide, think they’re beautiful, only 4%

72% – of women experience pressure to feel beautiful especially through social media

80% – of women think there’s something beautiful about themselves but they don’t know what it is.

7/10 – girls feel that they are not good enough to measure up, looks, school, etc.

98% – of girls feel pressure to look a certain way

92% – of teens want to change something about themselves and their weight is #1

4/5 – negative tweets on beauty are from women about themselves.

11% – of girls ages 10-17 are comfortable describing themselves as beautiful

Girls aspire to be confident. And 65% of girls  describe the women that they look up to, as confident.

Girls, Ladies, Women, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. These stats really tell a story about how we as women feel about ourselves. I feel empowered with some knowledge now that I can use some tips and tricks to look nice and then move forward to do what I’m called to do in this world.

I do quite a bit of speaking in business conferences, but this is a topic I really enjoy. I love flowers, they're like a ribbon on topWouldn’t you like to feel confident and empowered with some knowledge that you are prepared, and you look good and you don’t have to be self conscious?  

I can come and speak to your group and I can help you have the freedom to know that you look good and then you can get out there in world and get some stuff done!

A Gift

What is a gift, really?

Is it a thing, an item, their favorite toy?

 Is it the spirit of giving or the heart of the giver? When something is given by someone with a sweet generous spirit, then the gift is so much special.

Is it kind words? I believe that there is so much power in words that when  words are said in kindness and build you up, they are more valuable than any toy that’s wrapped in pretty paper.

Sweet words that are said in love are the icing on the cake or the ribbon on top.

Mmmm…Warm Coffee. My Favorite!

The ribbon on top is like the gift of warm coffee

 Giving of the Bounty of the Earth. Valuable!

A Gift is a Gift
 Yayyy…12 Little Presents. Fun!
A gift is best with the ribbon on topOooohh…A Surprise. Excited!

I want to celebrate you

Awww…A Rose, the Beauty of God’s Creation.

A flower is pretty like the ribbon on top

The ultimate Gift 


I love you!

Now that’s the Ribbon On Top of every gift.

The season of giving is here. Get ready, there are 7 more Fridays till Christmas. What are you giving this year?

I love flowers, they're like a ribbon on top

Proud to be An American

It’s a privilege to not only live in America, but to be able to become an American Citizen.

I am very thankful to be here and that I am married to a man who was determined to live here someday and made it happen soon after we were married. I am very thankful that our country is still the ‘Land of the Free’ and the ‘Home of the Brave’.

Proud to be an American. God Bless America
God Bless America

People who come here are often more patriotic and more excited and proud to be American than those who are born and raised here.

Isn’t that typical of so many things in life? When you’re given privilege from birth, you tend to expect it. When you’re born here, you don’t know what its like anywhere else. This is your normal so you take it all for granted.I wish that natural-born American citizens could go through the process that I went through to officially become an American.

There are application fees, finger prints, background checks, medical examinations, and then there’s the dreaded test!

I’m a homeschool Mom. I was really worried about the citizenship test. People from other countries, who barely speak English, study for the test and pass with flying colors. I wasn’t worried about failing, I was worried about not getting perfect score. How could I teach my 9 babies their lessons and not get a perfect score. Its a test about a very important subject; America. I speak English, I graduated high school, and I even studied a bit of American history as a teenager. There was no excuse to do poorly, but I actually applied myself and studied for the test like it was really important –  because it was.

After I had met the requirements, I was given the date to appear in court before the judge. I’m very happy to tell you that the swearing-in ceremony is one of celebration and congratulations. It was a festive, yet solemn moment. We stood together and said “I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.” Altogether we pled our allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, swore to uphold the Constitution of the United States, and were given a very moving talk about our right, privilege and responsibility to our country.

My Husband and beautiful American children all came with me to the big courthouse.

What did we do after such an important appointment? We left the courthouse and went straight to American Coney Island hot dog restaurant downtown Detroit, and had a hot dog. Then we walked right next door to Lafayette Coney Island restaurant and had another hot dog; and then we voted on which one had a better hot dog. After that, we went home and had apple pie. How American is that? Mission accomplished; fully proud to be an American.

As I’m celebrating the 4th of July, Independence Day, I will be thinking about this great I love flowers, they're like a ribbon on topcountry, a leader among nations, founded by Godly men and fought for by our brave men and women. I will be praying that we will continue the heritage and the values and the principles that the country was founded on.

God Bless America!



Give Back

The Ribbon On Top is a place where I want to give back. Using kind or encouraging words is a great way to give back. We can’t always physically do something for others, but we can speak, share and pray and nothing can stop us from doing that. A large part of giving back is to be grateful and to express that gratitude.

Today I’m very grateful for where I was born and raised until I was 21 years old; Canada, the land of my birth.

Give back and be Grateful for the Land of Your Birth
Canada, The Land of My Birth

I have been privileged to travel from the west coast in Vancouver, B.C. all the way to Oromocto, New Brunswick on the east coast. I skied the Rockies and vacationed in the Maritime Provinces. I’ve seen the Plains, the Rockies, the oceans and the lakes.

Today is not my day for facts and figures. There’s no way I could write enough in a short post and do justice to this fine land. Check out the facts and figures, posted by others who are better the me. Canada-Wikipedia.org

I lived the culture, from big cities to villages to farms. I got my education from kindergarten to college. I’m grateful to have been raised in a country that is known for its kindness and politeness throughout the world. We have family in Canada who range from business owners to homemakers; from educators to just plain hard workers. We have family who were actively involved with the political system and a brother-in-law, with the amazing partnership of his wife, served as an excellent member of parliament. We have family that are so deeply involved in their churches and communities that their impact will be felt and remembered for generations to come.

Canada, my homeland, was a country who supported Israel under the strength and I love flowers, they're like a ribbon on topleadership of the 22nd Prime Minister, Stephen Harper. Thank you, Sir. Fine Job. This year is a new beginning, with a new Prime Minister. We should definitely pray. That would be the best way  that I could give back.

This is my day to say  Happy Canada Day !  Party on, my people. You deserve it.